Today is #WorldHijabDay !! Proud to be a Hijabi, AlhamdurAllah. It’s not easy but it has definitely become a part of who I am; I owe a lot to this piece of cloth tbh. I wore it back in 9th grade and it has helped me through some pretty intense teenage years and that makes me appreciate it more than I already do! Please take the time to learn about Hijab; why, where, and how it’s worn and partake in this beautiful day to show your love and support to those who wear it 💝💖
“انما السبيل على الذين يظلمون الناس ويبغون في الأرض بغير الحق أولئك لهم عذابٌ أليم”.
“The cause is only against the ones who wrong the people and tyrannize upon the earth without right. Those will have a painful punishment.”
“…ألا إن الظالمين في عذابٍ مقيم”.
“….Unquestionably, the wrongdoers are in an enduring punishment.”
“ثم قيل للذين ظلموا ذوقوا عذاب الخلد هل تجزون إلا بما كنتم تكسبون”.
“Then it will be said to those who had wronged, “Taste the punishment of eternity; are you being recompensed except for what you used to earn?””
Nothing like the Quran to help you through times of despair…
It’s the small accomplishments that truly matter to me. I noticed It’s the baby steps that I take that really get me to the top. Nothing like accomplishing something you’ve set your mind to; something you’ve put all your time and effort into. I found that with the small accomplishment’s I make…the more confidence I gain; the more I feel like I can do anything I set my mind to. I feel smart and capable, and if I truly wanted it, I can get it. The end result is so satisfying…that it makes me want to keep pushing forward and keep on challenging myself and setting higher goals that I know I can reach…how? Because I was able to do so with previous goals I’ve set and truly thought I couldn’t accomplish until I saw those small accomplishments with each step I was taking.
Right now; on this day I’ve become hopeless. My heart is heavy and I’m not only at loss of words but also don’t exactly know how to feel about all this. I’ve become numb to the fact that my home has become dangerous to live in and that I feel unsafe in the comfort of my own home….this is a privilege America has lost by making Trump president. But let’s be strong and make this a motivation for us, we cannot allow Trump to win by making us flee and terrified. America is destroying it’s self and letting arrogance take the best of it, and let’s be real; the only thing arrogance leads to is destruction. And in the end everything happens for a reason, let’s keep that in mind.
Change is inevitable. Change isn’t always a bad thing either, I take it as a sign of improvement and progress. But we’re human and change is hard sometimes, and even scary. Generally speaking,’ from a human perspective; change is something we try to avoid because it’s taking us out of our comfort zone.
Today I attended a discussion that spoke about change with in families and to be more specific change between the life before marriage and after. I’ve been through this change; and actually, I’m still going through it. You know, when you get ready to take that step into the married life there is a lot to consider; a lot will change in your life, your routine, and even in you. You need to think hard and long before you take that decision because committing to something this big means a lot is going to change. It’s not all about ‘you’ anymore, it’s about ‘us’. You’re now living with another human being, you’re sharing not only your living space but also everything that was once yours and under your disposal; meaning you need to consult with another person before taking major decisions because they are now a part of your life…and that’s a HUGE change.
Another thing to keep in mind is, when you take someone to be your other half, you learn everything about them and you see all their good as well as their flaws; meaning what you see is what you get. I always hear people saying something along the lines of ‘oh he/she has this ___ problem and I know it’s a big deal but I’m sure he/she will change when we are married’ WRONG!! You should never, and I mean never; expect someone to change after marriage. This person has been living their whole life like this and you expect them to change after marriage? That’s literally how you set yourself up for disappoint. Change after marriage will definitely happen; after a life time together and you will change together. But to take someone who is doing something you don’t necessarily like and then say, they’ll change after we get married, that’s just not going to happen and you’re just going to end up hurting not only that person but yourself as well. So think of the phrase ‘what you see is what you get’ as you’re looking for your other half.
Also keep in mind the amount of change in this transition is massive. Which means it could be very stressful on both parties. So with that being said; it’s important for both parties to be understanding. There is this phrase in Arab that goes ‘شد وارخي’ which translates to ‘pull and release (the rope)’ and this is a good way to deal with things and change in general. When one side is being pulled you should let go a little that way the rope doesn’t snap.
Changes are always happening as you progress in life. From when you’re single and in school then head to university, that’s a change. Going from university and single to working and married, that’s a change. Going from married with no kids to married with kids, that’s a change…and so on and so forth.
Finally, what I learned from all this is change is bound to happen and you either welcome it gracefully and learn to adapt; or you let it drive you crazy and allow it to ruin your life.