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Simplicity In Existing

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July 2016

A lot of times I get people asking me, if getting married and finding love filled that emptiness inside that sometimes one tends to feel. And my answer to that may not be the answer you were looking for, but it is the truth.

No, love did not fill in the emptiness for me. While finding love is great and all, and it may have fulfilled other parts that i was probably missing, but definitely it wasn’t what filled up that strong emptiness in me. Finding the one and finding love shouldn’t be the one thing you rely on to fill that emptiness. Honestly even if you find love i’m a hundred percent sure that the emptiness will still be there, because a person cannot; and will not be able to fill the emptiness you feel inside. The only person who can fill it up is you, by doing good, being kind, finding yourself, doing what makes you happy, strengthening your faith…etc.

Before I got married I had that strong emptiness inside but it wasn’t finding someone that filled it. I filled it way before I got married, way before i ever found love; how? By finding myself. By strengthening my faith, by being there for my parents and being kind to them, by learning how to forgive and give people a second chance, by exploring what makes me happy and doing it, and by doing so much more than looking for/or waiting for love. Love didn’t come till I was able to complete and find myself; and fill that emptiness I felt.

So please don’t ever rely on someone or on love to fill any sort of emptiness or incompleteness you feel, because again, only you yourself can complete and fill that emptiness inside.

Here is something I learned, when you’re happy and content with your life, keep it to yourself. Don’t tell anyone about it if you wanna stay happy and content. Because not everyone will be happy for you, not everyone wants to see you happy with your life, and not everyone wishes you well. Even those close to you… it could possibly be unintentional but the nafs is greedy and can get easily jealous. So if you truly want to stay happy and enjoy what Allah has given you; keep it to yourself, and say AlhamdurAllah ☺️

“So as for the orphan, do not oppress [him].” [93:9] “And as for the beggar, do not repel [him].” [93:10][Sahih International]

There is a great importance of being fair and kind to both the orphan and the beggar that Allah Himself tells us with His own words to do so.

The final Juz! AlhamdurAllah! We made it to the end of Ramadan, a bitter sweet moment haha.

“My Lord, forgive me and my parents and whoever enters my house a believer and the believing men and believing women. And do not increase the wrongdoers except in destruction.” [71:28][Sahih International]
The perfect Duaa, enough said.

“And be not like those who forgot Allah , so He made them forget themselves. Those are the defiantly disobedient.” [59:19][Sahih International]
Try and always remember Allah in everything you do, in the end it’s for your own benefit. For remembering Allah in all that you do not only helps you make the correct decisions in life, but also adds baraka to it.

“And be patient, [O Muhammad], for the decision of your Lord, for indeed, you are in Our eyes. And exalt [ Allah ] with praise of your Lord when you arise.” [52:48][Sahih International]

Learning to be patient for everything that happens isn’t always easy, but we must try to remember that it all comes from Allah. And everything that comes from Allah has it’s own wisdom behind it.

Chapter #26/ Negative Assumption

This short clip from the show Qomrah really resonated with me. Gossiping is such a big deal and what’s scary is we really don’t see it as such.

‎قوله تعالى: {يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَبْ بَعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَحِيمٌ}[الحجرات: 12]

Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12][Sahih International]

Imagine you’re eating the flesh of the person [dead] you just spoke about. That’s not only a disgusting image but a very disturbing one too. We are taking this whole gossiping business so lightly when it’s not. And yes sometimes we do it unintentional but we must catch ourselves and stop our self from doing it and repent; as the end of the verse says “indeed Allah is accepting of repentance”.

We must fear Allah and do good by others, by refraining from speaking ill about them.

Ps. This is a reminder to myself first and foremost.

“You will see the wrongdoers fearful of what they have earned, and it will [certainly] befall them. And those who have believed and done righteous deeds will be in lush regions of the gardens [in Paradise] having whatever they will in the presence of their Lord. That is what is the great bounty.” [42:22][Sahih International]

And this is why we must remember to do good, because in the end that is what will save us in the after life. It’s all that really matters.

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