Simplicity In Existing


July 2017

As a woman, I feel as though we lack encouragement for one another in the female circle. We tend to put each other down rather than pull each other up; to the top. You don’t need to put another woman down to get yourself up. On the contrary helping another woman reach the top helps us all; one woman’s success is a success for us all. Also let’s not forget, representation matters, it is important for the younger generation to see all types of women succeed and become someone!! Someone they can look up to; we need all types of women up there to help guide them in this cruel unfair world. So why can’t we be kind to one another? Why can’t we support one another? Why can’t we find it in our hearts to wish each other well?We have so many beautiful, intellectual, and talented women out there who are succeeding in many different categories! Let us not sit here and judge one another. Let us not allow that green monster to let loose. Because lets be real, jealousy and hatred will get us absolutely nowhere, only kindness and support will help us move forward as a gender; and isn’t that what we want?

Learn to be kind, to love for others what you love for yourself, to be happy for others and what they possess and succeed in. For that is the true success.

You know, in some instances holding on can be so much more harmful than letting go. Holding on isn’t always the healthiest option. I know you may love them, care about them, and probably think you can’t live without them…but you can. You just don’t want to. You’re scared. Scared of having to continue life without them; even though staying with them means damage. It means pain. It means suffering. Not everything or everyone we want around is healthy; a lot can be extremely toxic. But being the humans we are, we don’t always care about our own health, especially when it’s someone we truly care about and love. A toxic relationship isn’t a relationship; be it a friendship, a lover, or anything really. A real relationship is a two-way street, meaning both parties must care and love and respect one another; and when one side doesn’t and abuses the fact that the other side does that’s where the toxins of this relationship begins; and eventually never ends. And when you’re not letting go and allowing yourself to leave; that’s where you’ll end up getting burned by all the poison.

One thing I regret doing when I was younger, although it didn’t happen much, was neglecting my parents. I did not give them the attention and time they deserved. As teenagers, we tend to be extremely cruel, especially to those who love and care about us. I wish I listened to my mother when she told me that one day I would regret the time I wasted around her and my Baba, because she knew all about it from her own teenaged experience. I wish we would listen to those older than us, who have been through our exact situations, and learn from them instead of having to go through problems ourselves and deal with all the consequences.

I’m close to my parents, and I love being around them; I always have and always will. I spent a lot of time with them, enjoying their company, learning from them, and so much more. I thought I did everything I needed to utilize the time I had with them. But guess what: Even with all this well spent time with them, I still feel like I didn’t give them the time and attention they truly deserved!

I moved away from home about two years ago and that meant less time with my parents, which was extremely difficult for me. I had never been away from them, and to be frank I didn’t know how I would live without them around me. I left and left them behind, I left and only had the memory of all the good times we spent together. I left broken-hearted. These past two years have been the toughest years of my life, not because I moved to a new state, not because I got married, not because I left my life behind, but because I left my parents’ arms. Not being able to hug my Mama every second of every day, not being able to have heart-to-hearts with my Baba in the middle of the night, not being able to wake up to their beautiful faces, not being able to say goodnight to them every night–it was all so heartbreaking to me, and I physically felt the pain of leaving them. Not going to lie: I cried a lot. I felt a lot of pain, and I took every and any chance to be able to fly back and see them, even if it was just for the weekend.

So for those who live with their parents, treasure that time with them, and appreciate them. Give them the love and attention they deserve, because you never know when the last time you are able to do that for them will be.

True statement. Change is difficult and exhausting but it’s what makes this world go round. Change is progress. Change is power. Change is beautiful. Imagine life stuck in one era because nothing has changed, nothing progressed. We cant move forward without change. So take change with open arms and embraced it!! 

We all wish things could be different. Things could be better. But do we take the steps towards it? Change takes effort. Change takes time. Why not be that effort and take that time? Be the one who makes a difference. If you have a vision, an idea, or a goal; start taking the steps towards it. How else do you think things in life will progress? If you don’t do it, who will? Don’t depend on someone else to make things happen, take control and do it yourself!!! Have faith in yourself and what you’re capable of doing!! 

(Ps. Photo by me!! Almost all photos on here are taken by me, a few extremely old posts aren’t but anything new is!)

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